Women are bitches.

Yes, I went there. Women are constantly complaining about how badly men treat them (I’m a woman, I should know – and I do, not the point) but I almost never hear females complain about how badly women treat other women.

Ask a woman what she will call another woman who sleeps around with multiple partners and I guarantee you a derogatory word will follow. But ask a man what he’d call another man who sleeps around with multiple partners and something along the lines of champion will follow. Of course, this is not ALWAYS the case but most of the time it is (trust me; I have survey results from a research paper to prove it).

My point is not that women should start encouraging each other to sleep around but rather that they should start encouraging each other FULL STOP. We can learn a lot from the way men stick by each other.

“Girl World” can be a cold and harsh place. Unfortunately a lot of the time women allow jealousy, insecurities and petty little things to get in the way of their ability to treat each other with love and respect (I’m NOT saying men are angels).

What we as females don’t realise is that each time we disrespect and devalue each other we make it okay for males to do it too. In my opinion we should stop the bitching, the backstabbing, and the finger-pointing. Females need to learn to treat each other with respect and then maybe males will learn to do so too.

Try a cliché.

Like family, we don’t get to choose our stepfamily – our parents do that for us. It’s selfish for anyone to expect a man or woman to live alone forever in the fear of choosing a partner that his or her children may not like. However, I think that far too many parents disregard the feelings of their kids all together.

If you remember Cinderella then you remember her evil stepmother and stepsisters. Poor Cinderella had to endure years and years of torture at the hand of her steps.  Luckily for Cinderella, she had a fairy godmother who pimped her out and let her get loose at a ball the royals were hosting (my memory fails me, I don’t really remember the occasion). Cinderella had to leave before 12 but ironically that was enough time for her to find a decent (and rich) man and make him fall head-over-heels in love with her, ha!

Anyways…

Cinderella wasn’t the only one who had to endure the wrath of ‘stepfamily’. Snow White’s stepmother poisoned her – now that’s rough! Again, luckily for Snow White a handsome young prince stumbled across her lifeless body, brought her back to life and they road off into the horizon, living happily-ever-after. Yawn.

Children don’t ask to be brought into this world, it’s a decision their parents make. Too often parents don’t realise how THEIR decisions have a lasting effect on their children’s lives.  I don’t’ believe couples should “stay together for the sake of the kids” and I don’t believe parents should choose new life partners that can’t respect their kids either.

Your child is part of you. If a man or woman can’t respect your child, they can’t respect you. The time-old cliché of stepmother/father versus children needs to stop. Every last single parent needs to consider their children and the consequences that abuse (in any form) from a stepparent may have on them for the rest of their lives – BEFORE getting married.

I’m not saying stay single for life, I’m just saying that like marriage is supposed to be forever – so is being a parent, and that should come first.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Every relationship you form in life should be based on respect. Whether it’s a friendship, relationship or business partnership, you can’t form a bond with someone if you don’t have and show respect for them. As Lauryn Hill says “respect is just the minimum”, if you don’t have respect you’ve got nothing.

That being said, in order to get respect you need to earn it. If you don’t respect others, don’t expect them to respect you. One of the biggest problems in the world today is that people have no respect for anything or anyone – this is why it’s so easy for humans to commit such monstrous crimes against the rest of humanity.

As Theodore Parker; an American Transcendentalist and reforming minister of the Unitarian church, once said “Never violate the sacredness of your individual self-respect.” because respect starts within and only once you respect yourself are you able to respect everyone and everything else around you.