It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

We’ve all lied before, whether it was about something small or something big – the fact remains that we’ve all lied to someone in our life time. I have regretted lying many times; it never ends well. But the lies I regret most are the ones I have told myself. Far too many times I have missed out on opportunities or got stuck in bad situations because I lied to myself.

There’s nothing worse than lying to yourself because you only end up hurting yourself. We fear the truth, when in actual fact it’s our own lies we should fear. The lies we tell ourselves have the ability to hold us back in life.

Remember, in order to be able to love and respect others you need to be able to love and respect yourself first; and you can’t do that if you can’t even be honest with yourself. Honesty is always the best policy; the truth is way less complicated than the consequences of a lie. Love yourself enough to be honest with yourself.


The man may wear the pants but the woman takes them off.

As a woman, you dictate how a man can treat you. Yes, I said it. The way a man treats you is your fault –well, MOST of the time anyway. It’s so easy for a woman to turn around and say all men are the same. I mean, men don’t exactly jump at the chance to prove the negative stereotypes wrong that some women have of them.

Men are simple creatures. He either wants to be with you, or doesn’t. Women hear what they want to. They add 1 + 1 and end up with five. When a man says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, he’s not playing hard to get – he means it. Yet many women take this as a personal challenge and then blame the man later when he turns around and moves on to the next fling (and then we have the pleasure of reading countless emo Facebook and Twitter updates).

We teach men how to treat us by accepting their bad behaviour (Yes there are genuine assholes walking this Earth, but they are a mixture of male and female). If a man loves you he will treat you as you should be treated; he will take your feelings into account. You will matter to him.

If a man treats you badly and you allow it everytime, don’t expect him to change. Know what you’re worth and know what you deserve. Don’t accept anything less. If it’s meant to be, it will be.