Bad decisions make good stories.

When you make a decision, you make a choice – you choose a particular course of action when given two or more alternatives.

With that being said, there are two types of decisions that can be made – good decisions and bad decisions. Good decisions are usually the decisions we are expected to make while the bad decisions are often “stupid” or “impulsive” – usually not thought through.

While good decisions are the safe and more logical choice, they aren’t the most exciting. A good decision would be to stay in on a weekend and finish all your assignments according to a pre-planned schedule. A bad one would be to stay out the entire weekend, party until you can’t stand anymore and worry about your assignments later. But honestly, which story would you rather hear?

What makes bad decisions good stories is the fact that when people make bad decisions, it’s a case of act first think later. There’s no time to predict the outcome, there’s a thrill in this. The outcome itself is an experience in its own. There’s a lot to learn from taking risks although the consequences may not always be pleasant.

A bad decision is never a mistake, only a lesson learned and if you make them enough you’ll soon learn the importance of making good decisions (and how to make them).

It’s important to be able to make decisions in order to solve a problem or take advantage of an opportunity which has been presented. Decisions both good and bad ones, are a vital part of finding direction.

In theory decision-making is supposed to be a rational process but let’s be honest – the decisions we make aren’t always logical. Sometimes emotions get in the way and that ALWAYS leads to problems.

It is impossible to make good decisions all the time. People are allowed to make bad decisions, it’s how they choose to deal with the decisions they make that defines them.

If you screw up, it’s not the end of the world. Remember the lesson that you walked away with. Don’t be afraid of making bad decisions and don’t be ashamed of the bad ones you’ve already made, because no good story ever started with “This one time when I ate a salad…”

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Bittersweet Memories.

Today while procrastinating, I found myself going waaay back on my iTunes playlist and playing some tracks that took me straight back to high school. I then added fuel to the fire by looking at old photographs (as the appropriate soundtrack was playing in the background).

It was almost as if I jumped into a time machine and briefly relived my life. It was weird; I experienced a mix of emotions – warmth, happiness, sadness and surprisingly no regret.

I have been fortunate to cross paths with diverse and colourful people. I have laughed hard, cried hard and loved even harder. I thoroughly believe that life works like the weather, in seasons that come and go. Although as a whole it isn’t always perfect. Life is made up of a bunch of both perfect and imperfect memories which make it real. People can never take that away from you.

There are a lot of people that I miss, a lot that I am glad to be rid of and many that have stayed by my side. I am happy. The only thing constant in life is change and that’s often hard to accept. Change isn’t always easy. All we can do is keep rolling with the punches and enjoy the ride.

Do everything you want to do, laugh too hard, dance until you can’t anymore, over eat, misbehave and take too many pictures. Never forget that while life may change, memories last forever – cherish them.

 

Hello significant other, goodbye (now) insignificant friend

I’ve seen it all too many times. Two people meet, fall in love and forget just about everyone else on the planet – except maybe other couples because they can do cool couple stuff and bask in each others’ couple-like awesomeness. Yes, I realise I sound like I’m hating – actually, I am. Not because I want that, but because I would like my friends back. Thanks!

I am always happy for my friends (both the boys and the girls) when they find love or even just ‘like’. I mean, who wouldn’t want to see their friends happy. My problem is I’d just like to actually SEE my friends.

Before people get into relationships, they’re a lot more fun because there isn’t anyone to distract their thoughts. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be boring or forget how to socialise.

I don’t know why couples feel the need to spend every-single-minute-of-the-day together! SAVE IT FOR MARRIAGE HONEY! Because if/when you two break up, adjusting to a life without that person will be that much harder.

It’s hard to balance friendships and a relationship, but not impossible. Don’t forget that your friends were there before your boyfriend/girlfriend, and they’ll be there afterwards helping you pick up the pieces.

There’s nothing wrong with spending a lot of time with your significant other but remember that a friendship is similar to a relationship – it works both ways and takes effort from BOTH parties. Make time to see your friends, make time to be a friend! Because while people fall in and out of love all the time – friendship is forever.