I am…?

I am… Whitney.

A good friend of mine, Kouthar, had been speaking about how much I remind her of the main character in the TV series “Whitney” for a while. I didn’t think much of it (because I had never watched the show) until I watched an episode…

There I was. “Whitney” is exactly like me, down to the last detail. I guess after five years of friendship, you know your friend – REALLY well. Kouthar was spot on.

For those of you who haven’t watched the show here’s a sneak peak:

Serendipity.

I’ve always thought that both the word and concept of ‘serendipity’ was a beautiful one, but everything becomes more beautiful once you’ve experienced it and a meaning can be placed behind it.

I have fond memories of an adorable blue-eyed, blonde guy that I crossed paths with. He had the most infectious smile and captivating eyes with a warmth that I’ll never forget.

It was by chance that we had met and by chance we had managed to stay in contact. Unfortunately, distance is the ultimate cockblock haha. It’s been two months since we last saw each other and I’m not sure if I’ll ever see him again.

It’s funny how a complete stranger can come into your life and leave a lasting impression.

As corny as it sounds I’d like to think that the times we’ve bumped into each other, was real-life serendipity. Don’t worry, I’m not planning the wedding – but I would like to think that one day we’ll meet again. You know, just to catch up.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Every relationship you form in life should be based on respect. Whether it’s a friendship, relationship or business partnership, you can’t form a bond with someone if you don’t have and show respect for them. As Lauryn Hill says “respect is just the minimum”, if you don’t have respect you’ve got nothing.

That being said, in order to get respect you need to earn it. If you don’t respect others, don’t expect them to respect you. One of the biggest problems in the world today is that people have no respect for anything or anyone – this is why it’s so easy for humans to commit such monstrous crimes against the rest of humanity.

As Theodore Parker; an American Transcendentalist and reforming minister of the Unitarian church, once said “Never violate the sacredness of your individual self-respect.” because respect starts within and only once you respect yourself are you able to respect everyone and everything else around you.

Hello significant other, goodbye (now) insignificant friend

I’ve seen it all too many times. Two people meet, fall in love and forget just about everyone else on the planet – except maybe other couples because they can do cool couple stuff and bask in each others’ couple-like awesomeness. Yes, I realise I sound like I’m hating – actually, I am. Not because I want that, but because I would like my friends back. Thanks!

I am always happy for my friends (both the boys and the girls) when they find love or even just ‘like’. I mean, who wouldn’t want to see their friends happy. My problem is I’d just like to actually SEE my friends.

Before people get into relationships, they’re a lot more fun because there isn’t anyone to distract their thoughts. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be boring or forget how to socialise.

I don’t know why couples feel the need to spend every-single-minute-of-the-day together! SAVE IT FOR MARRIAGE HONEY! Because if/when you two break up, adjusting to a life without that person will be that much harder.

It’s hard to balance friendships and a relationship, but not impossible. Don’t forget that your friends were there before your boyfriend/girlfriend, and they’ll be there afterwards helping you pick up the pieces.

There’s nothing wrong with spending a lot of time with your significant other but remember that a friendship is similar to a relationship – it works both ways and takes effort from BOTH parties. Make time to see your friends, make time to be a friend! Because while people fall in and out of love all the time – friendship is forever.