Gangs target teen girls.

Today I read an article that blew me away. While browsing through my Twitter feed the title, “Rise in gang rapes of teen girls”, grabbed my attention immediately. The article speaks about a brave teen girl who survived a gang rape. The 15 year old and her family are standing up against her attackers and pressing charges despite the fact that their lives may be in danger because of it.

Honestly, I take my hat off to this girl and her mom. I’m not sure I’d have the courage to do the same – not many people would. The girl’s mother says selflessly in the article that she will not drop the charges because she doesn’t want it to happen to someone else’s child.

Here are some of the shocking truths about violent abuse (extracted from the article):

  • 50 000 – the average number of reported rapes in SA every year
  • 10 000 000 – the number of actual rapes experts believe are happening every year
  • 3 – the percentage of rape cases that actually result in cases going to court
  • 28 000 – the number of reported sex violations against SA children last year
  • 5 – the percentage of children who will be sexually abused before they turn 18
  • 85 – the percentage of rapists who are armed with a knife or a firearm
  • 65 – the percentage of women who get raped in their homes
  • 1000 – the number of domestic violence cases reported by Mitchell’s Plain cops every month.

MEC for Community Safety Dan Plato is quoted saying “Alcohol and drugs are major contributors for rapes and many may feel they do not want to lay a charge.” [My response to his comment?] Thank you for that Captain Obvious, now what are YOU going to do about it?

With elections coming up this is the perfect opportunity for both the ANC and the DA (and all the smaller political parties) to stop all the talk and start taking action. Our people deserve better, especially innocent children.

We all know Rome wasn’t built in a day but maybe if our politicians worried less about power and worried more about the people who put them into power, the future of all South African citizens would be looking a lot brighter.

Click here to read the article:  Rise in gang rapes of teen girls

Try a cliché.

Like family, we don’t get to choose our stepfamily – our parents do that for us. It’s selfish for anyone to expect a man or woman to live alone forever in the fear of choosing a partner that his or her children may not like. However, I think that far too many parents disregard the feelings of their kids all together.

If you remember Cinderella then you remember her evil stepmother and stepsisters. Poor Cinderella had to endure years and years of torture at the hand of her steps.  Luckily for Cinderella, she had a fairy godmother who pimped her out and let her get loose at a ball the royals were hosting (my memory fails me, I don’t really remember the occasion). Cinderella had to leave before 12 but ironically that was enough time for her to find a decent (and rich) man and make him fall head-over-heels in love with her, ha!

Anyways…

Cinderella wasn’t the only one who had to endure the wrath of ‘stepfamily’. Snow White’s stepmother poisoned her – now that’s rough! Again, luckily for Snow White a handsome young prince stumbled across her lifeless body, brought her back to life and they road off into the horizon, living happily-ever-after. Yawn.

Children don’t ask to be brought into this world, it’s a decision their parents make. Too often parents don’t realise how THEIR decisions have a lasting effect on their children’s lives.  I don’t’ believe couples should “stay together for the sake of the kids” and I don’t believe parents should choose new life partners that can’t respect their kids either.

Your child is part of you. If a man or woman can’t respect your child, they can’t respect you. The time-old cliché of stepmother/father versus children needs to stop. Every last single parent needs to consider their children and the consequences that abuse (in any form) from a stepparent may have on them for the rest of their lives – BEFORE getting married.

I’m not saying stay single for life, I’m just saying that like marriage is supposed to be forever – so is being a parent, and that should come first.