What motivates me?

“You gotta find a way to survive ‘cos they win when your soul dies.” – Tupac Shakur

At some point in my life I came to the conclusion that I have no choice but to keep on going until I get to where I want to be, and since that day, that’s all I’ve been doing.

What keeps me going is the fact that no matter how bad my situation in life may get, I know that one day it will get better. If I work hard now, one day my hard work will pay off – I’d be able to sit back and enjoy the fruits of my labour.

I don’t have a bad life, but it hasn’t been easy. God, my friends, family and my dreams have kept me going.

And of course, MUSIC has had a big impact on my life. It truly has kept me going through the toughest times in my life.

In my opinion, once you’ve decided where you want to end up one day and what kind of lifestyle you want to lead, you’ll keep going until you get there.

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The hardest part about growing up…

To me, the hardest part about growing up is growing apart from those people you were always closest to. As we get older responsibilities creep in, people fall in love, interests change and people grow a part.

The one side of my bedroom wall is covered with pictures of those I hold closest to my heart. It’s filled with my favourite memories and people. When I woke up this morning, I found myself staring at all the pictures – the people – stages of my life; some new faces, some reoccurring faces and some faces that faded away.

I’ve always been blessed with the most amazing friends. And there are so many people that I miss.

But I guess part of life is growing up; cherishing, changing and expanding your circle of friends. The important part is that we remember to make time for EVERYONE that is special to us, never forget who was there for us and hold the happy memories close to our hearts.

“There comes a time in your life when you realise who matters, who never did, and who always will. So don’t worry about the people from your past, because there is a reason they didn’t make it to your future.”

KOL ♡

The 10 most unexpected consequences of being online:

Things I wouldn’t expect to happen while online…

Such an arb topic…

I’m going to list them as I think of them…

  1. YOUR FACEBOOK INBOX MESSAGES BEING REVEALED ON YOUR TIMELINE – Yes, I said it. Apparently it’s true. My advice to you? CHANGE YOUR PRIVACY SETTINGS TODAY, I did.
  2. Finding a soul mate – That’s hard enough to do in real-life, doubt it’d happen online. Don’t know if I even believe in soul mates.
  3. Winning a large sum of money or a prize – I’m sure we’ve all seen those pop-ups thousands of times but have you ever actually won a prize and received it?
  4. Being productive – I’ll be honest with you 90% of the time I spend online does not involve me being productive.
  5. Achieving world peace – LOL!
  6. Being caught cyber-stalking – Have you ever been on someone’s profile and accidentally liked a picture or status from 2007? Awkward.
  7. Finding a long lost sibling – I suppose it happens but one wouldn’t really expect it to.
  8. Finding the cure for AIDS – yeah, not going to happen – well not while being online anyways.
  9. Using all your cap up in one day – Youtube is NOT your friend, it will devour your cap.
  10. The Gangnam Style music video – I was minding my own business when I stumbled upon it. If you haven’t seen it, where have you been?! Too funny but people are killing the joke now.

Bad decisions make good stories.

When you make a decision, you make a choice – you choose a particular course of action when given two or more alternatives.

With that being said, there are two types of decisions that can be made – good decisions and bad decisions. Good decisions are usually the decisions we are expected to make while the bad decisions are often “stupid” or “impulsive” – usually not thought through.

While good decisions are the safe and more logical choice, they aren’t the most exciting. A good decision would be to stay in on a weekend and finish all your assignments according to a pre-planned schedule. A bad one would be to stay out the entire weekend, party until you can’t stand anymore and worry about your assignments later. But honestly, which story would you rather hear?

What makes bad decisions good stories is the fact that when people make bad decisions, it’s a case of act first think later. There’s no time to predict the outcome, there’s a thrill in this. The outcome itself is an experience in its own. There’s a lot to learn from taking risks although the consequences may not always be pleasant.

A bad decision is never a mistake, only a lesson learned and if you make them enough you’ll soon learn the importance of making good decisions (and how to make them).

It’s important to be able to make decisions in order to solve a problem or take advantage of an opportunity which has been presented. Decisions both good and bad ones, are a vital part of finding direction.

In theory decision-making is supposed to be a rational process but let’s be honest – the decisions we make aren’t always logical. Sometimes emotions get in the way and that ALWAYS leads to problems.

It is impossible to make good decisions all the time. People are allowed to make bad decisions, it’s how they choose to deal with the decisions they make that defines them.

If you screw up, it’s not the end of the world. Remember the lesson that you walked away with. Don’t be afraid of making bad decisions and don’t be ashamed of the bad ones you’ve already made, because no good story ever started with “This one time when I ate a salad…”

The Elephant In The Room

Elephants are incredible creatures. Not only are they are highly intelligent animals but they express an advanced sensitivity and social connection. Since the beginning of time people have been fascinated with these stunning creatures, so it’s no surprise that elephants have become popular symbols in everything from religion to politics.

Here are some examples of elephants being used as symbols:

Generally, elephants are associated with strength, honour, stability and patience.

In nature elephants are known to take great care of their young and elders, they are known for their responsibility and loyalty. These determined animals are always standing up for each other and defending members of their herd.

In Hinduism, Ganesha is the God of luck, fortune, protection and is a blessing upon all new projects.

Christians believe elephants are a symbol of temperance, patience and chastity.

In many western cultures, the elephant meaning pertains to:

  • Reliability
  • Dignity
  • Power
  • Royalty
  • Pride

As a Chinese symbol, the elephant is considered a symbol of:

  • Happiness
  • Longevity
  • Good luck

I’ve always loved elephants, they truly are magnificent. Whether you see them as a significant symbol or not, you can’t deny how beautiful these animals are.

Gangs target teen girls.

Today I read an article that blew me away. While browsing through my Twitter feed the title, “Rise in gang rapes of teen girls”, grabbed my attention immediately. The article speaks about a brave teen girl who survived a gang rape. The 15 year old and her family are standing up against her attackers and pressing charges despite the fact that their lives may be in danger because of it.

Honestly, I take my hat off to this girl and her mom. I’m not sure I’d have the courage to do the same – not many people would. The girl’s mother says selflessly in the article that she will not drop the charges because she doesn’t want it to happen to someone else’s child.

Here are some of the shocking truths about violent abuse (extracted from the article):

  • 50 000 – the average number of reported rapes in SA every year
  • 10 000 000 – the number of actual rapes experts believe are happening every year
  • 3 – the percentage of rape cases that actually result in cases going to court
  • 28 000 – the number of reported sex violations against SA children last year
  • 5 – the percentage of children who will be sexually abused before they turn 18
  • 85 – the percentage of rapists who are armed with a knife or a firearm
  • 65 – the percentage of women who get raped in their homes
  • 1000 – the number of domestic violence cases reported by Mitchell’s Plain cops every month.

MEC for Community Safety Dan Plato is quoted saying “Alcohol and drugs are major contributors for rapes and many may feel they do not want to lay a charge.” [My response to his comment?] Thank you for that Captain Obvious, now what are YOU going to do about it?

With elections coming up this is the perfect opportunity for both the ANC and the DA (and all the smaller political parties) to stop all the talk and start taking action. Our people deserve better, especially innocent children.

We all know Rome wasn’t built in a day but maybe if our politicians worried less about power and worried more about the people who put them into power, the future of all South African citizens would be looking a lot brighter.

Click here to read the article:  Rise in gang rapes of teen girls

Song for the day :)

I grew up listening to Des’ree, I remember my aunt playing her music quite often.

Today I heard this song and it made me smile. The lyrics are really inspiring.

“Listen as your day unfolds, challenge what the future holds.Try and keep your head up to the sky. Lovers, they may cause you tears. Go ahead release your fears, stand up and be counted. Don’t be ashamed to cry.”

Have a listen. Enjoy!

Women are bitches.

Yes, I went there. Women are constantly complaining about how badly men treat them (I’m a woman, I should know – and I do, not the point) but I almost never hear females complain about how badly women treat other women.

Ask a woman what she will call another woman who sleeps around with multiple partners and I guarantee you a derogatory word will follow. But ask a man what he’d call another man who sleeps around with multiple partners and something along the lines of champion will follow. Of course, this is not ALWAYS the case but most of the time it is (trust me; I have survey results from a research paper to prove it).

My point is not that women should start encouraging each other to sleep around but rather that they should start encouraging each other FULL STOP. We can learn a lot from the way men stick by each other.

“Girl World” can be a cold and harsh place. Unfortunately a lot of the time women allow jealousy, insecurities and petty little things to get in the way of their ability to treat each other with love and respect (I’m NOT saying men are angels).

What we as females don’t realise is that each time we disrespect and devalue each other we make it okay for males to do it too. In my opinion we should stop the bitching, the backstabbing, and the finger-pointing. Females need to learn to treat each other with respect and then maybe males will learn to do so too.

Every day is a good day.

Welcome to my imperfect journey through life. No day is ever the same and no day is ever without its problems, but no day goes without me cracking a smile.

Life gets tough; sometimes it appears to be impossible. There are days I struggle to get out of bed but, I get through them because even when life seems to be falling apart – it’s never really ALL bad.

Never forget to reflect and be thankful for what you have because somewhere out there, there is someone happier who has much less.

No matter what I go through, no matter where life takes me, I’ll always be okay. At the end of the day there is always at least ONE reason for me to want to see the next.

Stay humble. Stay thankful. And choose to see the Brightside in everything.