Hello significant other, goodbye (now) insignificant friend

I’ve seen it all too many times. Two people meet, fall in love and forget just about everyone else on the planet – except maybe other couples because they can do cool couple stuff and bask in each others’ couple-like awesomeness. Yes, I realise I sound like I’m hating – actually, I am. Not because I want that, but because I would like my friends back. Thanks!

I am always happy for my friends (both the boys and the girls) when they find love or even just ‘like’. I mean, who wouldn’t want to see their friends happy. My problem is I’d just like to actually SEE my friends.

Before people get into relationships, they’re a lot more fun because there isn’t anyone to distract their thoughts. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be boring or forget how to socialise.

I don’t know why couples feel the need to spend every-single-minute-of-the-day together! SAVE IT FOR MARRIAGE HONEY! Because if/when you two break up, adjusting to a life without that person will be that much harder.

It’s hard to balance friendships and a relationship, but not impossible. Don’t forget that your friends were there before your boyfriend/girlfriend, and they’ll be there afterwards helping you pick up the pieces.

There’s nothing wrong with spending a lot of time with your significant other but remember that a friendship is similar to a relationship – it works both ways and takes effort from BOTH parties. Make time to see your friends, make time to be a friend! Because while people fall in and out of love all the time – friendship is forever.

4 thoughts on “Hello significant other, goodbye (now) insignificant friend

  1. So true but yet an unfortunate part of “maturing”?. I salute the few who irrespective have found their “soul mate” love themself enough to make time for the “me time, friend time and family time” Well written.

  2. WOW! I really enjoyed this piece. This has given me a great idea for a youth program. As a youth leader I found that this phenomenon has spread rapidly within my youth. My youth is now filled with many couples but I hardly see them as they always spending ‘QT’. I do encourage dating but I believe you must have some boundaries and enjoy life with your friends too. It is after all these guys who play the great role of impartation in your life and you learn and mature so much. But when a break-up occurs we as ‘friends’ are good again. Thanks Chantal – I will definitely share this with my peeps and hear what they have to say.
    Awesome pIcs (smiley face)

    K

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