First Love

I don’t believe that you’ll love your first love forever. I also don’t believe you’ll never forget your first love – I meanyou’ll obviously never forget them, but that goes for anyone you fall in love with, not just your first.

In fact, I think first love is the most superficial kind of love you’ll ever experience. It’s euphoric, emotions are everywhere and you aren’t familiar with what you’re feeling. Everything you think, say or do is amplified and intensified. It’s a natural high. I won’t lie, it’s amazing but it’s also blinding.

I think it’s beautiful that some people only ever end up with one person, their first and last love. However, for the rest of us, if things didn’t work out we need to let go. That’s the beauty of life – you can love, let go and start over.

I remember my first love (and I cringe), I don’t regret it but I also don’t mourn for it. You can never truly move on unless you truly let go. If it doesn’t work out with your first love, that’s okay. Be grateful because when the right person does come along, your first love will be like your first kiss – irrelevant.

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We are what we do

I don’t think we are what we do. We all make mistakes, that’s what makes us human. I once stumbled across a saying somewhere “it takes a life time to build a reputation and a minute to lose It.”, that’s because people are judgmental – they will always judge you by your actions. This is unfair.

I live my life in the moment; I don’t always think things through. Sometimes I act out of anger, out of love and even out of plain stupidity; I just choose to see my mistakes as lessons.

You can’t judge someone’s whole character on ONE action or decision they make in life. You shouldn’t be judging at all. You don’t know their struggles; you don’t know what drives them.

Actions and intentions go hand-in-hand.  We are who we are and ‘what we do’ just makes up but a small portion of that.

Forget what others think, do what you want to. Be spontaneous.

High School is the best time of your life. Yeah right!

Throughout my childhood, nearly everyone I crossed paths with would tell me that  “high school days are the best days of your life – you’ll never forget high school” which wasn’t a complete lie. I mean, unfortunately I’ll never forget high school but as far as high school days being the best days of my life goes, SO WRONG.

I had high hopes for high school. I vaguely remember my first day. It was an exciting time in my life but the novelty soon wore off. Early mornings, five days a week, class from 8am until 3pm on most days, compulsory sport, detention– I do not miss it. I do however miss the people and the random things we got up to in an attempt to entertain ourselves.

I didn’t hate high school, I actually liked it (minus the terrible fashion and choices in hairstyles), I will always cherish those memories but I just think that varsity life is sooooo much better. High school is an awkward time in anyone’s life. You don’t know who you are, you have no idea how big the world actually is and you aren’t 18 yet (that’s when all the fun really starts).

I guess it all comes down to a matter of opinion. I like to think that these days I spend my time with the people I want to see, I am studying what I want to study and it’s legal for me to do everything (provided that it’s legal of course – drive, sign contracts, smoke, drink, etc). Kids try so hard to fit in and be popular at high school, when in fact none of that really matters.

There is life after high school – a much better life, and it doesn’t involve a uniform.

Hang in there.

We are afraid of the wrong things.

We are afraid to be ourselves. We go through life cautiously because we are afraid of what others think. It’s common knowledge; people do things they don’t really want to do to impress other people. Peer pressure? Its something you experience throughout your life and it’s probably never going to go away.

The truth is, no one wants to be looked down upon or judged by others. As much as we say we don’t care, we do. Somebody famous once said, “no man is an island unto himself”,  and it’s true.

We cut, copy, paste and edit parts of ourselves in order to fit in and be accepted, but that’s not how it should be.

A word to the wise, in life we shouldn’t be afraid of being ourselves because of what others think. Instead, we should be afraid of losing ourselves in the process of fearing what others think.

Some mid-week inspiration.

As I’m sure you have all gathered, I firmly believe that people should voice their opinions and back their beliefs up with actions to match.

At present, I literally still have goosebumps from a short film that I just watched on YouTube. “KONY 2012 is a film and campaign by Invisible Children that aims to make Joseph Kony famous, not to celebrate him, but to raise support for his arrest and set a precedent for international justice.”

I have shared this film on Facebook and Twitter, not just because I believe in this campaign but because I feel that this campaign should INSPIRE people to stand up and make a difference, because ONE person can make a difference.

This film made me think.

As South Africans we face our own challenges such as corruption, crime, etc. Take a second and ask yourself just how much and what you have done to take action and fight for what you believe in.

How much do you know about the Secrecy Bill? How much do you care? Do you know how it will affect EVERYBODY, not just journalists?

I encourage you to watch this short film and to share it. Make a difference.

Take action and find out what you can do to help make a difference in your own country. Read up on the Secrecy Bill & visit the Right2Know website: www.r2k.org.za

EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT TO FREEDOM OF SPEECH… WHILE IT’S STILL LEGAL.

The word ‘platonic’ exists for a reason.

Society has placed a strong emphasis on the male and female attraction. So much so that it’s almost automatic that people assume any boy-girl combination seen together are a couple. I mean really now, is the idea of a platonic relationship that ridiculous?

About a week ago, a good friend of mine and I decided to meet the rest of our friends at a party. Simply because everyone else had things to do beforehand and we wanted to be there early.

Within the first half an hour of being there, we had both been asked numerous times about our relationship. “NO WE ARE NOT DATING.” The funny thing is that this very same friend of mine, is in my close circle of friends. We are always out together. So what made this particular time different? We arrived together!



According to rumours I have dated ALL of my close guy friends to date. How entertaining. They are like the brothers I never had. I get along easier with guys. I have more guy friends than girl friends and I can safely say I don’t plan on falling in love with, hooking up with or marrying any of them. I love them but I am not IN love with any of them (and vice versa).

I think every girl and guy should have atleast one close friend of the opposite sex. Girls and guys can be friends, they’re supposed to be! People need to stop jumping to the wrong conclusions and see things as it is, sometimes guys and girls hang out – just because they’re friends and that’s what friends do.

Fish falling from the sky.

I can’t breathe, why can’t I breathe? Where am I? Where is everyone else? Oh no, have one of the sharks caught me? Why am I still alive and thinking then?

I can’t breathe.

Why am I being whirled around violently?

What’s happening around me? I hear others screaming too. Everyone’s bumping into me.

I can’t control my movement.

Whaaaaat’s going – ?

Need, water…

I’m falling. What’s that coming closer?

Is it my home? Why’s it so flat and still?

I need water.

No air. My body is shaking violently, I can’t stop it. I’m scared.

I can’t bre –